Posted on: 17 January 2022
If you're pregnant and not confident in your ability to care for the child once he or she is born, then you may be considering adoption as an option. Adoption can be a wise choice for some birth mothers, and these days, since most adoptions are open to some degree, adoption does not have to mean never seeing or having contact with your child ever again. As you start to consider adoption, here are some early steps you can take to learn more about this option and start making plans.
See a counselor.
If you are not already seeing a counselor or therapist, this is a good time to start. The decision to offer your baby for adoption is not an easy one, and having a non-biased therapist with who you can talk to throughout the process will come in really handy. They can help prepare you for the emotional struggles that you may face as you make this decision, giving you the tools you need to work through those struggles. People in your family may have strong feelings about your decision to adopt, and talking with them is not always very productive or helpful. A therapist is someone who has your best interests at heart and can support you regardless of your decisions.
Contact a few adoption agencies.
Start looking for adoption agencies near you, and reach out to them. Do be sure to contact more than one. This way, you can learn about each agency's process, and you can compare the processes to see which you feel most comfortable with. There may be one agency whose approach is more in line with your own needs, or who has more focus on the types of families you'd like to have adopt your child. You won't know until you make the comparison.
Visit support groups.
Finally, make sure you find some support groups for other birth parents and parents who are considering adoption. It can be really helpful to talk to others who are in the same situation as you, or who made the decision to adopt recently. Your therapist should be able to help you find such a support group in your area. Meetings are typically laid-back and casual, and sometimes these days, you can even attend remotely.
The decision to offer your baby for adoption is not one to take lightly. Consider the steps above, and when you're ready, start taking them. You'll feel more confident in your decision once you start taking actionable steps.
For more information on open adoption, contact a professional near you.Share